You can’t build a kingdom with a woman who’s constantly checking who else is hiring.
Because modern women aren’t struggling with loyalty rather they’re struggling with abundance addiction.
Too many DMs, Too many backup plans, Too many men willing to “do more” for less.
The Truth Is You Really want to lead her but;
She’s still calculating if someone else’s space is bigger and prettier.
Now Let’s Jot down five reasons why it’s very difficult to lead a modern women.
- LACK OF LIMIT AND BOUNDARY
Loyalty Requires Limits—But She Has None
You delete your dating apps, She keeps hers “just to scroll.”
You set boundaries with female friends, She keeps hers for “emotional support.”
You shut doors, She leaves hers open.
You’re trying to build trust, She’s keeping her options just in case.
- INABILITY TO FILTER VALUE FROM ABOUNDACE
Abundance Makes Her Blind to Value.
When plenty men validate her every day, your praise means nothing, she sees your effort as a mere routine and your sacrifice is just a background noise.
Recognise quality become a challenge for her because she’s overwhelmed with quantity.
If her self-worth is equal to attention, She’ll trade respect for reaction and validation always.
- ABANDONING OF HER FEMININE ROLE
She Doesn’t Want Leadership, what She Wants is Auditions, You tell her your vision but She more concerned about the present entertainment she’s enjoying not knowing time is her worse enemy.
You offer guidance but She is addicted to chaos and drama.
You say she should follow you, but She want to know why even when you have already tell her your vision, she’s testing your resolve.
She doesn’t want a path, She wants a parade.
The moment you stop entertaining, she scrolls to someone who will because options is never her problem.
- SOCIAL MEDIA IS NOT HELPING EITHER
Her phone is her Darling and her Pastor is her Demi God
Emotional intelligence is her enemy, She doesn’t process emotions, She posts whatever she feels.
She’s a TikToks Badie, Instagram Queen, she’s wow by Snapchat filter and can’t get enough of it, she flood her Facebook timeline with after service pictures for likes and comments and all this boosted her ego and overstretched her illusion.
She is allergic to discomfort, She doesn’t face relationship tension, she flee at sight of any little challenge.
And when reality hits too hard, she finds a new vibe instead of fixing the old one, if you are wanting for her to take responsibility then I’m sorry to tell you that, she is always a victim in her eyes.
- BACKUP PLAN SYNDROME
Modern Feminine Energy Has a Backup Battery
She never fully commits, because full commitment means risk, it means put all her eggs in one basket, she has learnt to hedge her supposed love, one leg in and another out.
Risk of boredom, Risk of failure, Risk of having to actually change, so what did she do? she dabbles, tests and plays along and keeps one eye on the exit even during “I love you.
Final word: If she has options, you don’t Have authority because you can’t lead a woman who’s constantly entertaining doubt.
You can’t protect someone who thinks protection is a prison and you can’t equally offer direction to someone who’s still following hashtags and horoscopes.
So stop trying to be the man who wins her over, because real leadership needs loyalty and if she can’t follow you without fear then she was never yours just a temporarily available.