First of all, confidence is not a performance, It’s not about being loud, toxic or fake dominance, It’s about walking like you know who you are and where you are going whether she claps or not.In this modern world, the man who knows himself, protects his power and speaks with clarity usually gets the girl of his dream and keeps his dignity intact.Now let get real, shall we?
1. CONFIDENCE: This isn’t about being loud, It’s about being rooted, confidence men don’t beg for validation, they don’t usually measure their worth by quantity but quality, their weight outshine the volume, they don’t need to explain their presence, they walk in and people feel their presence.Therefore to get the woman of your dream, you must develop unshakable confidence and you do this by stop seeking attention but rather start building presence.
2. ASSERTIVENESS: To get a woman of your dream, assertiveness is a necessity, say what you mean and don’t explain It twice.Speak your truth without sugarcoat the blow, she doesn’t have to like it but she will respect it but if you keep clarifying, explaining or apologizing for what you said, sooner than later you will lose your crown.
3. OWN YOUR LIFE: Never Parrot Other People’s Opinions, yes thier opinion matters, it count and useful but it should not be the centre of your decision making.“My mum said, “ let me hear my pastor’s opinion, “My friend thinks.. Nah! If you agree with them, own it. If you don’t, challenge it.Confidence comes from thinking independently and remember, the woman you want needs a man with a voice but not a messenger with a script.
4. ATTRACTION OVER DESPERATION: Instead of chasing after her it’s better to build what she wants to Join, remember, she’s not the goal, your purpose is.You should make her feel lucky to be invited into your story, not expect you to write her one, let her fall in love with your motion, your goal, your craft but not your desperation.
5. ENVIRONMENT MATTER: Upgrade your environment if necessary because your circle is your future, you can’t grow if you’re surrounded by clowns, complainers and comfort addicts.Change cities if you can to the ones that resonates with your goal, switch friend and groups, Outgrow the people who anchor you in mediocrity because confidence is contagious and so is stagnation.
6. TAKE YOUR FINANCE SERIOUSLY: Whoever told you that love doesn’t cost a dime is not telling you true in fact, love cost a million especially in modern dating pool, learn high-income skills, you are not doing it to impress her but to Protect and hedge your chance.Don’t earn more so you can impress a broke girl with Snapchat filters and champagne taste, rather, earn more so you can “Eat better, sleep better, dress better and walk into rooms like you belong there, It’s better she call you stingy, It’s better than her calling you broke and available.
7. BE SELECTIVE: Be selective of a woman you want, filter and don’t try to fix them.She’s beautiful? Cool!! but is she peaceful? Is she feminine? Is she grounded? does she make your mission easier or heavier?You’re not a rehab centre, you’re a man with a destination, Vet her hard, date slow and don’t forget to Lead with logic, not lust.
8. SET CLEAR BOUNDARY: Don’t be carry away by LOVE, Boundaries is inevitable if you want to win a girl of your dream, you can like her but if she crosses the line! correct her or cut her off.The dream girl isn’t the one who stirs butterflies. It’s the one who knows how to protect your peace because a man without boundaries ends up being a man without purpose.
9. STICK TO YOUR STANDARD: Know and define your standards and stick to them always no matter what, don’t whisper your preferences, say them with your chest.Do you want; Loyalty, Respect, Femininity and Vision alignment?Then say it and if she calls you controlling! Smile because a man who knows what he wants never argues with the woman who doesn’t qualify.
10. YOU MUST CARE FOR HER: Make her feel safe without losing your masculinity, you don’t need to be a caveman but you do need to be solid.Let her cry, Let her rest and Let her trust, that is her nature but don’t shrink to make her comfortable because a woman only feels safe with a man who doesn’t crumble when she chaos arise because what she wants is to rest in your frame, not run your life.
Final notes: You will not get your dream girl by performing, you get her by becoming the dream man, so build; your voice, your circle, your income, your emotional discipline and your structure because confidence doesn’t chase, It chooses.And when you walk in truth, protect your peace and stop begging for attention, the right woman will show up with more than looks, She’ll show up with loyalty.